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Rita Ott Ramstad's avatar

I'm so sorry, Mesa. I know it's if not when for all of us, but it's a whole other thing to be told that the if is likely to be much sooner than you thought it would be. Sending hopes for peace and comfort.

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thank you, Rita. That’s the thing that’s messing with me, intellectually I know that we’ve all got an expiration date, to hear it voiced out loud that it’s been moved up for him is a whole other thing to know.

Casey Mulligan Walsh's avatar

Oh, Mesa. This is heartbreaking and so baffling for those of us reading and multiplied an infinite number of times for you and Ben, who are living it. I am so sorry and am sending all the light and a huge hug. Wish it could be more. ❤️

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thank you, Casey. 🫂😭❤️‍🩹

kaylen alexandra's avatar

Mesa. This is heartbreaking to read and I am sending so much love. Thank you for writing to us about it.

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thanks. I still don’t quite know how to process it all it’s this weird limbo of waiting and trying to do all the right things in the meantime to bring down the stress on his body.

Laura Pendell's avatar

Dear Mesa

This is the hardest news to get from a doctor. I hope the CPap machine heals your beloved’s body and allays some of your fears. There’s an entire community here to lean on and I am honored that you trust us with your pain. You are so loved.

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thank you, Laura. That means so much to me. 😭❤️‍🩹

Ines Vassos Rincon's avatar

I’m so sorry to hear your news. Both my husband and I wear cpap

Machines and it has helped a lot. Hope it makes a difference for him ( the stress on his body ) too.

I know you don’t need to hear this but be pushy about getting him the machine if it’s the best course of action for him. I wasn’t as proactive about getting mine, not realizing no one cares as much about my well being as I do. My thoughts are with you and your husband!

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thank you, Ines! I’m definitely good at being pushy when it comes to his health. I could tell the doc was getting a little bit annoyed with me 🤣but I don’t care. I’m good at advocating for him. 😍

Thanks so much for your support. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

Mesa, my heart is always with you. This is so scary. I hope there are measures Ben can take to heal some of the damage and prevent any additional injury. XO ❤️❤️❤️

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thank you. Me too. I’m so so so scared and trying so damn hard not to be.

Amy Gabrielle's avatar

It's normal to be scared. Try to stay present as much as you can and love each other. XO ❤️❤️❤️

Heidi White's avatar

Holding space for your tender heart, friend. Sending healing ✨✨

Mesa Fama's avatar

Appreciate you, Heidi. ❤️‍🩹

Ron P Muriera's avatar

Mesa- sending you and your hubby light and love. Here’s to the hope of extending the inevitable a little longer. 💖

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thank you, Ron. ❤️‍🩹

Grace Drigo's avatar

Sleep apnea is a terrible condition. My son suffers from it. He now has gotten used to wearing a CPaP mask that helps minimize the events. It is life saving. I’m sorry you guys didn’t catch it sooner but it will help immensely once he starts. 🩵

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thank you, Grace. Here’s hoping it’ll help reduce his risks. ❤️‍🩹

Stephen Wunderlich's avatar

💔🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏🙏

Mesa Fama's avatar

❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Jen St. Germain's avatar

Hello my dear. I sent you a direct message.

Bonnie Solomon's avatar

Oh Mesa, I'm sorry to hear this. Sending so much love to you both. 💓💓💓

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thank you sweet friend. Love you right back. ❤️‍🩹

Sabrina Sehbai's avatar

I was just talking to my husband last night about the fact that at our age, my dad had already had a heart attack and nearly died, and how the gravity of this genetic “inevitably” weighed on my heart. I know we’re the same age Mesa, and so I felt your angst with this. Sending big hugs, and positive thoughts, that the IF wins over the WHEN. 🌺❤️‍🩹

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thank you, friend. Here’s hoping 🤞🏻 ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Negar Kamali's avatar

Mesa, although I'm unmarried, I understand your grief of losing sb you love deeply (I saw this deep love between my parents when my mom and dad lived apart for a year. Not that they wanted to get a divorce, but for other reasons).

Mesa Fama's avatar

Thank you, Negar. ❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹❤️‍🩹

Negar Kamali's avatar

Gern geschehen (you're welcome 🙂).

A Patriot's avatar

C-PAP

Mesa Fama's avatar

Yup, we know. Just waiting for the doc to call.

A Patriot's avatar

Good luck to you both.